I came to understand the value of mentoring the year I served as a missionary in Honduras. There I met and worked with
Jim O'Leary, a man who saw opportunity where others saw only obstacles. Jim selflessly gave his whole life to helping
others. Working with him grounded me in my faith and changed the way I saw the world. Jim and the students we taught were
living faith in a much different way than I had ever encountered. It wasn't about words or doctrine. It was about action and
service. Working with Jim ingrained in me the need to be a person who uses his gifts to serve others, rather than simply
for self advancement. Jim's influence continues to shape my life, even today.
The Honorable Timothy M. KaineGovernor
of Virginia
My mentor was my father, he taught me how to fish, play baseball and follow the “Golden Rule”. Fishing taught
me patience, and to expect the unexpected, playing baseball taught me teamwork and how to win and lose; and the Golden Rule
has always served me well.
Edward HolmesVADJJ - Field Operations Manager
“Having a positive role-model is vital to building character and strengthening families. My role model
was certainly my father, who served as a Juvenile Probation Officer when I was growing up. He taught me the values of faith,
family and hard work that still stick with me today.”
The Honorable Delegate Brian J. MoranChairman,
House Democratic Caucus
My uncle Jose has always tried to make sure I was doing fine in school and I didn’t get into trouble.
To be a mentor means to set an example for other people so that they may take the positive qualities from the example and
shape themselves after that. Mentoring is important because it allows people who have never had someone to lookup to, a chance
to experience that feeling.
Victor from FairfaxResident, Hampton Place
My mentor was Sergeant First Class Johnny Johnson, a soldier in the United States Army. Sergeant Johnson taught
me all about being a responsible citizen and to always strive to be the best at whatever I do, regardless of how big or small
the task. He taught me the importance of being respectful and to never take anything or anyone for granted.
Lloyd
Merchant, Jr.Sr. Probation Officer, Roanoke Court Service Unit
What could be more important than to have someone to look up to? Someone who you trust and respect; who
you know is always concerned for you and what is best for you. There isn't a successful person in this world who didn't
get there by following someone else's lead and building on those positive influences. We all need mentors to be successful
in life.
The Honorable Jay E. DuggerJudge, Hampton Juvenile & Domestic Relations District
Court
My brother-in-law, Coby, has always been there for me when I’ve needed someone to talk to. He
is always encouraging me to do better. He mostly shows me he cares by just listening. The most important lessons
that I have learned from him are: (1) to trust the right people, (2) to never let one bad thing hold me down, and (3) that
you can always change. I haven’t done it yet, but I want to mentor others.
KarlResident,
Virginia Wilderness Institute
As a former educator, I have personally seen that “mentoring works.” A positive one on one role
model works with at-risk youth in the communities and youth in correctional centers. I have been extremely fortunate
to have had a number of mentors, male and female, over many years that have made a major impact in my personal and professional
life. My mentor for the last five years has modeled “always taking the higher road.” And I continue
to attempt to emulate this quality. Over the last five years, I have mentored Governor’s Fellows in the Office
of Public Safety. The experience is always intellectually stimulating as well as personally gratifying
Marilyn
P. HarrisDeputy Secretary of Public Safety
My mentor was a man named Jeff who was a volunteer youth leader with the small country church my family attended.
I got to know him when I started middle school and was beginning to struggle in a number of ways. My father was a very
hard working man and didn't have a lot of time to devote to parenting. Jeff was a carpenter, and I recall how he would
stop by my house to see if I wanted to go with him when he was running errands for his business - not a big deal. Well,
it was to me. I believe mentoring can be as simple as that. By giving time to a young person we show them they
are important, that we like being with them, that they have value. Jeff didn't spend a lot of money on me, take me on
any grand outings, or try to be a counselor. He gave me only his time and attention, and I am very grateful he did.
It changed the course of my life.
Earl J. Conklin Director, Falls Church Court Services
One of my most important mentors was Michael Dale, the first Executive Director of the Youth Law Center, who hired me
to work as Senior Staff Attorney at the Center in 1978, and who is now a law professor at Nova Southeastern University Law
Center. He was an experienced legal advocate for children and had been involved in some of the landmark litigation in
the 1970s over conditions of confinement for children. I had a lot of experience representing adult criminal defendants
and doing civil rights litigation, but not much representing children. He helped me to focus on the key issues in the
juvenile justice system and to think about the needs of troubled and at-risk children. We have been friends for 28 years
and I still rely on him for advice.
Mark Soler
Executive Director, Center for Children's Law &
Policy
Stanley Stewart, Probation Supervisor, Loudoun County CSU has served as my mentor and role model. I knew what
it was to be a probation officer based on my volunteer work with the Fairfax CSU but Stan taught me the little things, the
people skills, the things you can't learn from a book or a class. Working for Stan for 13 years helped me make the transition
into a supervisory position within the CSU. Even today at a Division Manger with Parks and Recreation I still use the
skills that Stan helped me develop in dealing with both the public and the employees that work for me. For this I will
always be grateful.
Dave CarverDivision Manager, Loudoun Parks & Recreation
I was mentored by a man by the name of Clarence Wilson. He served in the US Army retiring at the Rank of Command
Sergeant Major. He also served as my High School ROTC instructor. Coming from an environment stretched for financial resources,
he instilled a conquering attitude within me. He helped me to believe and achieve that barriers are only barriers when you
allow them to be barriers. His positive influence and motivation made all of the difference. His mentoring meant the difference
between making a life and settling for obstacles. Mentoring is important because you never know the profound impact you may
have on the life of an adolescent. An adult's guidance and mentoring can be the overwhelming difference between a life of
crime and a life of progress. Being a mentoring means being part of the solution.
Antoine EasleySuperintendent,
Norfolk Detention Home
Sheila Hill-Christian, past Director of DJJ, Past Director of the City of Richmond's Juvenile Justice Service, Past
CEO of GRTC, Past Director of the Richmond Redevelopment and Housing Authority and Present Director of the
Virginia State
Lottery was and continues to be my mentor. A mentor is someone who allows you to grow, encourages your efforts, keeps
it professional, never personal and presents a demeanor allows you to draw from while developing your own style of management
and professionalism. Mentoring is important because it allows you to give back and develop future leaders, supervisors,
managers etc., mentoring is not a selfish act!
Dalee M. Thomas, Sr.Superintendent, Richmond Juvenile
Detention
A mentor is someone, typically older, who has already walked the path you are walking. They provide advice and guidance
to help better your life. They are rarely judgmental, which, I think, is the key to accepting their advice. Most
of my mentors have certainly been opinionated, but never judgmental. I've had several mentors at different times in
my life and I'm so appreciative of each of them. One of my most valuable mentors is Vivian Brandon, a retired business
teacher in Roanoke. Mrs. Brandon was instrumental in helping me develop a sense of professionalism as a young woman
in my twenties and those are lessons I've used every day and never forgotten. Her most valuable piece of advice to me
was "Be kind - especially when you don't want to." She is now 85 years old and I still seek her counsel upon occasion.
I definitely would not be the person I am today without her influence in my life. Her mentoring is typically subtle,
however, she can really "cut to the chase" when she thinks it necessary.
Joy LugarExecutive
Secretary, VADJJ Western Region
My mentor was Arthur Pigram, a former parole officer with the Norfolk CSU who is now deceased. He was my internship
supervisor. He taught me how to connect with people and the importance of building relationships. He also taught me
the value of having a sense of humor in the work place. I have mentored students and been a volunteer coach for the
past 7 years. The most touching aspect of mentoring is visualizing growth and development. As a mentor you are
shaping and molding lives which in a word is benevolent.
Van B. Mitchell, III.Sr
Intensive Parole Officer, Norfolk Court Service Unit
Although
I'm no longer in the hman services business, as I sit here reading the mentoring contributions on this website I see many
familiar names. I hope it is not inappropriate for someone who is now on the
outside to share a few "thank you's". So "Thank You" to...
Gayle
Turner - who forced me to realize I had more to contribute than watching TV all night on the 12 - 8 shift at Bon Air, and
convinced John Britton to hire me to work in the DOC Certification Unit. She
taught me to dress for the job you want, not the one you're in...and about "politics."
John
Britton - who hired me on Gayle's recommendation and then continued to give me oportunities for growth. He also taught me it is okay for the boss to be human.
Chuck
Kehoe - who hired me to manage the DJJ certification unit, provided encouragement, opened the door to ACA and the opportunity
to travel the country visiting juvenile programs. Those opportunities led
to my agency head appointments at the local and state levels.
Joyce Fogg - who held my hand, and continued to tell me I was capable of doing anything.
I'm
sure there are others...but those deserve specific mentions.
Sheila Hill-Christian
Executive
Director, Virginia Lottery
I was blessed that my mentor was my father. In addition to being my father he was a combination of things including
caretaker, role model, supporter and friend. He provided for me during my childhood and taught me though his role modeling,
self respect, good judgment to be a critical and independent thinker, a strong work ethic and sound financial management.
As a life long mentor we became friends to the point that in the end I performed a caretaking role for him. Finally,
mentoring is important because I believe it was Dorothy Nolte who wrote Children Learn What They Live. Not all of us
are fortunate to have social and economic circumstances that aid in the development of well-adjusted citizens; mentoring is
away for those of us who have the heart for it to be a blessing to someone else by sharing that with which we have been blessed.
James RankinDirector, Manassas Court Services Unit
In high school I had a History teacher, Miss Virginia Pitney, who not only gave me a lifelong interest in history
and in the Supreme Court but most importantly taught me never to settle for less than my very best. Her primary focus
was on getting the most of my education, but she helped me at an impressionable age to realize that I was the one who suffered
most when I accepted mediocrity from myself. In graduate school, my advisor John Willson "forced" me to write and think
clearly. No obfuscation. Learn the right words and use them. My first supervisor at Radford, Charlene Lutes,
was Dean of the College of Arts and Sciences (I was Associate Dean). Charlene is a woman of real strength and integrity
who would try to solve a problem with the least pain to anyone, but who ultimately would not compromise her principles even
when pressured. Charlene put ambition into perspective as secondary to character.
Dr. Mary
AtwellCriminal Justice Professor, Radford University
I heard a news commentator
the other day state that the race horse, Barbaro, was a hero. What barnyard refuse! Sports figures are not heroes. What they
do outside of their profession may be worthy of such a title, but not simply because they have the ability to smack a ball,
or catch a fish, or drive, or to do any other activity designed primarily to entertain. Actors are not heroes for the same
reason. Most politicians are not heroes, nor can they all be called honorable. Not all teachers are heroes. Not all guides
are heroes. Not all friends are heroes. Though they each may stimulate and foster aspirations within us toward excellence
in a particular field of endeavor.
Likewise, not all mentors
are mentors. Being a mentor requires active participation and acknowledgement. It is not a title assigned to a person because
we get a good feeling of self esteem, tangential to the topic they are instructing us in. Nor is it used to designate a person
who could have been doing something else instead of helping our sorry selves. A good teacher is not a mentor just because
they influenced you to think. A good scout troop leader, minister, doctor, movie theatre usher are not mentors merely because
we learned something useful from them. No, a mentor is that person who shows you how you fit into the equation, into the grandness
of life, as an equal spark of creation, and teaches you how to contribute to the whole.
They are out there. They
do exist. They encourage us, love us, motivate us, guide us, teach us, laugh with us, play with us, preach to us, cajole us,
console us, make us stronger, bolder, happier in our lives than before we met them. They do so on purpose, and their reward
is none at all, excepting our smiles, our successes their successes, and our joys their joys. These people we call mentors
are selfless servants in our lives, to whom we cannot repay our debt, and to whom we can offer nothing. But we can become
mentors to someone else, and life goes on, and love never ends….
Personally, I needed a lot
of help, and these great souls found me: Stan Harding, Martin Connelly, Ric Murphy, Dick Young, Eruch Jessawalla, Kitty Davies,
and Jane Haynes. I am humbled by their lingering presence in my life.
Ron Telsch
25th Court Service
Unit, Probation Supervisor
Wish I’d had one;
would have been better for it.
Bill Harrell
Director, Suffolk Court Service Unit
My grandfather mentored me. I grew up without a father so he provided a role model for me. He taught me to put God
first, get an education, stay out of debt and stay out of trouble with the law. I have used those principles throughout my
life and tried to pass them on to my own children. There were times that I could have gotten in trouble but his words kept
beating me upside the head. I have mentored youth who I have coached in basketball, football and Martial Arts. Mentoring is
very important because you set the example for the next generation. It is satisfying to run into a youth that you worked with
who is now a successful adult. I had an occasion where I was in a popular restaurant in the Shockoe Bottom. The owner walked
up to me and said, “Good to see you Coach”! It turned out he was a kid I coached and worked with in the neighborhood
when he was in the 5th and 6th grade. According to him, I had a positive impact on his life. You never know what a difference
good or bad that you can make in someone’s life so it is important to be aware of your influence. I could share other
stories like when I was a probation officer and one of my probationer’s is the head chef at one of the best exclusive
hotels in town. Now that I am a Grandfather, I try to pass on what was taught to me.
Stephen D. Charlson
Gang
Program Coordinator, VADJJ
There have been many people in juvenile justice and in the community who have provided me with guidance and mentoring.
The most important, however, are two juvenile court judges who I would consider to be at the top of my list. Both of
these ladies worked hard to uphold the law and seemed to have a sincere interest in the children, families, and communities
they served. They sparked my interest in juvenile justice, while making it clear exactly how difficult and rewarding the field
can be. We all should strive to seek advice and information from those who truly represent the ideals and accomplishments
we believe to be worthy. Mentors help show us the way, sometimes intentionally and sometimes just by their example.
Nancy
P. FlemingAssistant Superintendent, Culpeper JCC
My mentor was my mother, Joan Cook. Mentors are role models that have been divinely appointed to teach and
model life’s lessons, which will guide and direct a mentee to greatness. Mentors perform “rites of passage”
and facilitate the emergence of great leaders.
Stephanie GarrisonDirector, Richmond
Court Service Unit
My first supervisor at the Henrico Probation Department was probably the most influential person on my career. He
provided support and guidance, as well as constructive feedback to encourage growth and success. He took a personal as well
as professional interest in staff. He is also encouraged me to continue my education and allowed for flexibility in my work
schedule to accommodate evening classes. Even when I was transferred to a different supervisor, he continued to be supportive
and encouraging and provided feedback for improvement.
Angela C. ValentineCommunity Programs
Manager, VADJJ
I have had numerous mentors at various points in my life, from teachers to colleagues to friends. I consider mentors those
who take a special interest in helping to develop skills and character in others. Unquestionably my most significant mentor
has been my mother. She is a wise, confident, strong-willed, opinionated woman who exemplifies high moral standards and places
family first. She continues to give me honest feedback and constructive criticism about every aspect of my life. She keeps
me humble and honest in my dealings with others. Her example has taught me to treat everyone with dignity and respect and
to not take myself too seriously. I am a mentor to others and feel that it is my responsibility to give back in this way.
The
Honorable Angela Roberts
Judge, Richmond J&DR Court
Over the years, I have had wonderful mentors in my life who have encouraged me to pursue my dreams. Growing up as
an African American in the south brought with it many challenges and my high school English teacher was an important mentor
in my life who took me under her wing and encouraged me to attend college. I mentor young teens at church and through many
civic organizations where I am a member. I participated in a mentor program at the University of Richmond to support and provide
guidance to young African American students.
Vickie Johnson-Scott
Northern Regional
Director (Warrenton), VDSS
My professional mentor was Judge Aundria D. Foster. I did not select her nor did she select me, however
by working with her she provided an excellent example of professionalism and advocacy. Judge Foster presented me with
the opportunity to learn. Her expectation of competency and advocacy in working with youth provided me the opportunity
to look outside the box. Her acknowledgement and support of my efforts in working with the youth and families on my
probation caseload was a great motivator. Her “redirection” and “suggestions” assisted in developing
my investigative and writing skills.
Julie Truitt
Substance Abuse Planning Coord., DMHMRSAS
I have mentored several young women and know and understand the importance of mentoring. One in particular comes
to mind. After hiring her, I observed real potential, encouraged her to enhance her skills and afforded her training
opportunities. She has been very successful, is now in a position with more responsibility and doing extremely well.
Mentoring involves providing advice, encouragement, playing devil’s advocate, criticism (always
constructive) and
friendship.
Jacqueline F. FraserDirector of Admin. & Educ., Group 4 Securicor
My first job after completing graduate school was serving as a local CSA Coordinator. Shirley Hall, who was
then the Director of Clifton Forge Social Services, was my supervisor. I worked for her for a year before accepting
my current job at the CSU. I have always considered Mrs. Hall to be a mentor to me. During the year that I worked
for her, and as I have continued to work with her in the CSA process, she taught me a great deal about being professional
but also about standing my ground on issues that I feel strongly about. My work with her has provided me with a great
deal of guidance over the last nine years, and I feel that children’s mentors can do the same for them. So many
of the children that we work with don’t receive positive guidance in their family settings and mentors can help to bridge
that gap. Mentors can not only provide social guidance but even academic and career guidance to young people.
The importance of mentoring is to provide an opportunity for needy children to connect with a positive role model, who can
offer guidance that could make a difference in their lives.
Shirley ThompsonProbation Officer,
Covington Court Service Unit
I have always felt one of my agency’s strengths has been the large number of individuals we employee who are
good mentors. I have learn from individuals in every position. The two main mentors in my career have been a retired
Unit Director and a CSU Supervisor. As a mentor these two individuals provided a framework to view situations and stressed
the importance of being honest and respectful of others. Mentoring is something we all need; we should select individuals
carefully and keep in mind that someone may be looking to us as a mentor.
Robert FosterDirector,
Martinsville Court Service Unit
When I graduated from college I immediately began working at New Dominion Inc. in Maryland. My supervisor’s
name was Greg Coleman. Greg's interaction with youth and insight into the being an effective advocate for youth set
an excellent example, one that I have always tried to follow. I believe what made him effective was his ability to be
direct with not only the youth we serve but with me concerning my personal and professional growth. Although the things
he may have said to me were not always comfortable to hear, they were usually correct and I always felt like they were motivated
by care for me. Mentoring is extremely important because it gives an individual an opportunity to learn from someone
who has experienced many of the same challenges and experiences and provides direction based on their successes as well as
failures.
Thomas KeatingProbation Supervisor, Fredericksburg Court Service Unit
As a young, inexperienced college graduate I was more than green when I began my career in the juvenile justice
field. Lucky for me I was blessed with a wonderful mentor, boss, and friend, Tim Dotson. He taught me first and
foremost that, “kids are kids”, they make mistakes, but that they are mistakes they hopefully learn from.
While making daily visits to kid’s homes, Tim quickly taught me to get “down on their level” and to never
put myself above them. In doing so Tim quickly earned their respect. He never raised his voice, which is what
most of our clients were use to. He showed a great deal of care and compassion for the kids on his caseload. He
pushed them to excel and never gave up on them. While there were days he may have been disappointed by their actions,
he never stopped caring. For Tim it was more than just a job, it was and is an opportunity to help a kid – to
make a difference. He taught me to show the same kind of compassion and care towards everyone that we worked with no
matter their background. If not for the time he took with me to overcome my own insecurities in dealing with such a
difficult population I don’t think I would have continued my career in the juvenile justice field. Twelve years
later I am still learning from my mentor and I thank him for that.
M. Elizabeth WilliamsProbation
Officer, Bristol Court Service Unit
My spiritual mentor is my dad ... as much today as when he passed nine years ago. My professional mentor dates
back to my first "real" job with DJJ (then DOC; later DYFS)... Cookie Scott, 16th CSU Director taught me skills and
values that I, to this day, reflect on professionally and personally -- to me, that's what makes a mentor. Cookie practiced
respect, integrity, dedication, fairness and a passion for doing the right thing for children and families, while protecting
the community. The term, "balanced approach" had not been coined, but Cookie mentored the concept through her respectful leadership,
intelligent advocacy, and collaborative skills. I have no doubt that she continues to inspire those fortunate enough to work
for her in her current role as Deputy Director of DOC. Effective mentors inspire, teach and support the growth of another
individual in a way that lives on beyond that relationship ... thank you Cookie, and Dad.
Betty J. DixonVP
Planning and Development, Providence/FPS
No person has one mentor. One learns from many mentors even on the job situation. With the exception
of my parents, family, and educators, my first boss was my mentor when I was developing probation skills and some management
responsibilities. I also learned from mentors outside of the work environment in developing non-technical skills that
deal with the understanding and handling of people in the work setting. Even with supervisors who lacks skills or lack
the ability to mentor, one learns how not to handle work or personnel situations in the work place. This is why I say
there is not just one mentor in one’s life or work situation.
Mentoring can be defined as a simple act
of making a comment or giving advice at a particular point in someone’s life that will influence his behavior and cause
an action or reaction.
Mentors are important because no one enters a new situation in his profession or in his
social contacts who does not need assistance from the more experienced if that person wants to be successful in his endeavors.
I feel a pride of accomplishment when I can mentor someone and observe how he grows, evaluates the advice I give, compares
that advice with the advice he receives from others and decides what action to take or to refrain from taking.
Michael
J. LazzuriOperations Manager, VADJJ Western Region
(and former VJJA Board of Directors member)
My first professional mentor was my first supervisor. As a new graduate, I accepted a position with Americorps
as a case worker with the Maryland Juvenile Justice System. My supervisor took a management position in my office at
the same time I was hired. We were consistently understaffed. The qualities that made her a mentor were: her willingness
to help the team (not just manage the staff), her open door policy and her appreciation of the work done by the staff.
She frequently had fun awards that she would pass out during morning meetings.
Katharine HunterProject
Coordinator, Children’s Justice Center
My mother Ernestine Pauley was my mentor. In addition to her role as homemaker she held two outside jobs.
She provided stability and even though I had a stepfather, it was my mother who laid down the rules, provided structure, and
gave the man building talks on how I should conduct myself. The best lesson I learned from my mother was to stand for
something and make my name count somewhere. She also taught me to not be selfish and appreciate what I have whether big or
small. These lessons keep me humble and eager to groom my son and pass down things that I’ve learned. Even today me
and my mother are very close and I wouldn’t trade our relationship for a million dollars.
Antonio
M. Pauley, Sr.Correctional Captain, Beaumont Juvenile Correctional Center
I never made a professional move without first seeking out John Matish, who hired me at the 7th District CSU in 1973,
and asking his opinion first. His advice has always been right on the mark!
Don
Willis
JDAI Coordinator, Newport News
I have had several people mentor me throughout my career. My first mentor was my supervisor at my first job.
My mentor showed me the ropes and provided me with general guidance regarding the early in my career, which included mapping
out a plan to navigate through the various promotional opportunities within the state. My mentor continued to provide me guidance
as I obtained various positions and served as a valuable asset in assisting me with problem resolution and ideas to enhance
my career. Obtaining advice from people that are more seasoned than me has enabled me to utilize their experiences and insights
to place me on the fast track in my career pursuits. I have had the opportunity to mentor others and it has proved to be just
as, if not more, valuable as being mentored. The joy in mentoring comes from seeing others succeed.
Amy
WilliamsManager, VADJJ Human Resources
When I started in juvenile justice as a volunteer coordinator, I was blessed to meet Dr. Ivan Scheier. He
was called the guru of criminal justice volunteerism in America. He provided training and was always available to listen and
help me find my own answers. I believe that is the hallmark of a good mentor - to provide knowledge, listen and then help
you find the answers through guided exploration. I currently serve as a mentor to new program directors in my field
and I find that it helps me continue to grow and keeps me on top of my game. New folks always manage to challenge you when
they ask why we do things the way we do. Mentoring opens both parties to fresh ideas.
Amanda WimberleyDirector,
Portsmouth Community Corrections
Mentoring involves the relationship, teaching, the modeling of behaviors and the ability to challenge the individual
to grow and improve. My mentors as I developed professionally included Phyllis Jacobson-Kram, a Family Therapist that
I worked closely with for several years and Frank Pierce, the Director of Fairfax House prior to my selection for that position.
Many of the older VJJA members will remember Frank and understand the importance that he had on my life and my development
as a Human Services Professional for the 16 years that we worked together. Being a mentor means being available to someone
else--at their time and need; it means being willing to challenge that individual in their choices and actions;
it means insuring that the model that you set for others is a positive one.
Mentors can play many roles
in our lives, and can be in specific areas. I believe that developing a cadre of 'mentors' around you will insure a
growth beyond what we could do without them. We utilize mentors to help us develop in our relationships, professionally,
financially, spiritually, physically and emotionally. Utilizing this concept and encouraging others to be mentors as
well as seek out mentors is an important value that I have lived by. I am proud to say that I have been a mentor to
others and will work to continue to be whenever possible. In addition, my two oldest sons have put themselves in the
role of mentoring youth and students, which is truly the impact that I attempt to achieve--having those around me touch others
as I have been touched.
I believe that it is our civic and social duty to play a positive role in others lives
and strive to continue that wherever I go. With the month of recognition, one of my thoughts is to make sure that we
say "Thank You" to those who have mentored us in our lives.
George S. Young, LCSW
Director
of Bus. Dev., National Counseling Group
A mentor by definition is a trusted counselor or guide like a tutor or coach .Within that definition I think a mentor
is a person - usually older - who helps someone else - usually younger - not only realize their self-worth, but also helps
the person achieve self-worth. A very important mentor to me was a tutor, William Harper, who helped me academically when
I was in an academic slump.
The Honorable Nelson T. DurdenJudge, Hampton J & DR Court
I unfortunately have no mentors that I can recall. I did not know my father nor did I have a male figure that I
recall that had a positive or negative impression on me. I was raised by women. Being a mentor means, love, happiness,
ministry and accomplishment. Mentoring is important because youth need guidance, and guidance needs to be driven by
wisdom.
Clarence McGill
Youth Industries Manager, VADJJ – Division of Institutions
For more than five years I had the opportunity to mentor several young ladies from the Gilpin Court area of Richmond
through the Friends Association, Inc., Rites to Passage Program. The experience was rewarding and completely fulfilling. I
was able to watch the same young ladies who entered the program grow into young ladies. Throughout the program they were taught
social skills, etiquette and educational skills. At the end of the program we organized a debutante ball for the young ladies
and their families. I have followed up with some of the girls and was proud to learn that they are now in college, working
and living on their own.
Letta PorterInterstate Compact Office, VADJJ
Throughout my years as a public servant, I have been the recipient of outstanding mentoring by juvenile justice
professionals, practitioners and public servants … too many to name here nor would I want to slight any of them with
my poor memory. I’ve learned that you can learn something from almost everyone in an organization, no matter their
position or title. Among the important perspectives that I’ve learned from others is the value of not taking yourself
too seriously and seeing the humor in ourselves and the situations that life presents. Life is too short to linger in self
doubt or recrimination. The mentors that I cherish the most have demonstrated caring and concern for others. I believe
being a good mentor includes demonstrating support and concern for others, allowing others to find their own path, and to
offer knowledge, guidance and constructive feedback when asked and in moderation when you think it is needed.
Gayle
TurnerDirector, Chesterfield Court Service Unit
Who was my mentor? A number of people actually. Having grown up in a single parent home, I was blessed
to have uncles who influenced me. Much of what I learned about being a man came from them. EVERYTHING else came from
my mom. One of my uncles taught me that working hard, being honest, responsible and being an "on time" person were very
important. I have tried to carry those teachings with me. Interestingly enough, he never really said those words, he
just lived them and I watched. Another uncle taught me, “Never let something without a brain beat you". That mantra
has really come into play recently with all of the computer issues that flare up from time to time. It also comes into
play a lot doing simple household chores and repairs. He was ahead of his time. If he were alive today, I'm sure
he'd be an engineer.
Stan StewartSupervisor, Loudoun Court Service Unit
While employed at the Roanoke CSU I was fortunate to work with two fabulous supervisors. Diane Brogan
was a role model and a supervisor with whom I could discuss any concern without hesitation. She set high standards for
and had high expectations of her staff, and while this discouraged some, it taught me that good supervisors raise the bar
to obtain the very best performance. Bridges Radick Spiva was my other career mentor. She helped me look beyond
what I "should" be doing at my age and to just be the best person I could be. She pushed me and supported me in taking
on new projects and acquiring new skills, so that I could become a supervisor right away. I am fortunate to have had two very
secure, intelligent women help guide me in my professional development. I still talk with both women on a regular basis
and know that without their support, guidance, and encouragement I would not be where I am today.
Amy
M. MorganSupervisor, Sanctuary Crisis Intervention Center
Over the years, I’ve had many mentors. My first mentor was my 4th grade math teacher Sister Carol.
Today, one of my mentors is Dr. Laura Moriarty. Dr. Moriarty is the Vice Provost for Academic and Faculty Affairs at
Virginia Commonwealth University and she has served as the chair for my master’s thesis and my doctoral dissertation.
In addition, she has been a great friend, teacher and mentor. Mentors provide guidance without insisting. Mentors see
more in you than you can see in yourself. Mentors help you dream a greater dream than you could alone. Mentoring
is important because giving to others is giving to one’s self and the community at large. It provides an opportunity
for each person to act as an example for others. As the movie “It’s a Wonderful Life” illustrates,
each person’s life touches another’s and often we don’t fully understand the effect we have on people.
Mentoring provides an opportunity to have an active influence on others.
Nicolle Parsons-Pollard, Ph.D.
Assistant Professor, Virginia Commonwealth University
Thaddeus F. Aubry Sr. is my chief mentor. At the tender age of ninety-three he delights in listening to any issue
I share with him, and he is generous in counseling me on ways to understand problems and possible courses of action.
In my career, Mr. Austen C. Micklem, Jr. and Bill Bader both provided wise advice in the ways and means of the department
in particular and state government in general. They helped me to understand the cyclical nature of state bureaucracy
from their historical perspectives and accurate foresight. A mentor is willing and able to communicate insight, history
and wisdom to a colleague without detracting from the person’s own initiative, motivation and understanding. Mentoring
is a process of enhancement or enrichment. Through the process of mentoring, any organization (family, school, business,
government) sustains itself by proceeding from the old to the new that is, regeneration to generation. It is how core
values and processes are maintained and adapted so that the organization is always relevant to the times, societal needs,
and the old and new constituents.
Thaddeus F. AubryOperations Manager, VADJJ Northern Region
I have had several mentors; one in almost every job I have ever had. When I began my career in juvenile justice/corrections
in Illinois, my mentors were John Platt and the late Joseph Rowan. When I came to Virginia, my mentors were Bill Weddington
and Frank Slayton. In many respects, when I was the director of DYFS, my mentors were also the agency employees who were doing
the work, in the trenches, day in and day out. I learned a lot from them. To me, a mentor is a coach, a friend, a teacher,
and a colleague. A mentor is someone who "has your back" when the chips are down but can also let you know when you need to
get your act together. Those who can say they have had a good mentor are blessed.
Chuck KehoeVice
President, G4S Richmond
(and former DYFS Director)
I was fortunate to have very good mentors through athletics. Specifically, my high school football coach took
a real interest in me. He was only about 10 years older than me, had graduated from our state university and had been a star
athlete, so I looked up to him. In college, I was particularly close to one of our assistant coaches who I admired and respected
a great deal. He was a big part of my life for my college years and remained a close friend until his death last year. As
a boy and young man, athletics was more important to me than academics, so it is not surprising that I was drawn to coaches
and they to me….we had things in common!
We all need guidance at critical times, but particularly when
we are young and finding our way in the world. Key adult figures, including parents, provide needed role models. Most young
people face many crossroad moments…..whether to go with your peers down a road that is appealing, but that you know
is wrong. Without the benefit of adult role models, like mentors who you do not want to let down, it is too easy to take the
wrong road. Mentors not only tell and show you what is right….mentors teach a young person what a healthy relationship
means. Because of that relationship, a young person will tend to do the right thing because he/she respects the mentor and
does not want to let them down.
Kevin J. MoranJDAI Coordinator, Norfolk
During the past 21 years I have held three positions with the Department and ultimately I have had the benefit
of having three Mentors. When I first began working with DJJ (then it was DOC) I was hired as a Learning Center Supervisor
A (yep, I’m showing my age!). Being right out of college and very green, I had the pleasure of being assigned
to work with Clyde Hart (we called him Daddy Hart) in B cottage at the Reception and Diagnostic Center. As our endearing
nickname for him implied, he was a father figure to us in the workplace and a mentor for us in our employment. Very
direct and maybe even gruff at times, he was honest, fair and knowledgeable about the job and always treated co-workers with
the greatest respect. I am not sure if Mr. Hart is still around doing the annual barbeque at RDC, but I do know a little
piece of him is still with me helping me make those sometimes very tough decisions we make as a Probation Officer regarding
court-involved youth.
My second position with the Department was that of Correctional Rehabilitation Counselor
(later called Program Manager), also at RDC under the supervision of Bob Clark. Bob was really more of a Mentor than
a Supervisor, which in the long run actually made for a better Supervisor. Sure, he trained us in the position, but
he did more that just train us and oversee our daily activities. He offered words of encouragement when times were tough
and praise for a job well done. He was experienced and knowledgeable and always available to answer questions or with
just a “few words of wisdom”. If you did make an error (and I made my share!), he did not call you on the
carpet for a winded lecture, but calmly discussed it with you and offered better alternatives that may have been at your disposal.
You always left his office with a positive attitude and knowing that you would not make that mistake again.
My
third position and the one I now hold is that of Probation Officer with the 28th District Court Service Unit. When I
left RDC and came to this position in 1990, I not only left a job with which I was familiar, but also the familiar surroundings
of the Richmond area. Other than my wife, I knew no one and had no clue about the Abingdon area, which meant I knew
nothing about the local community resources needed to work with court-involved youth. I could have easily landed in
a job where I was expected to “sink or swim” on my own. Fortunately, another Probation Officer, Bob Hurley,
who is now retired, immediately stepped up and began mentoring me in every aspect of the job. Although he had a heavy
caseload of his own, he took time out to take me under his wing and help me become familiar with the district, its resources
and other agency workers. He was very patient with me and made himself available to me day or night with questions regarding
my caseload or Intake (including on call at night).
The dictionary defines a mentor as an “experienced
and trusted advisor”. I see a mentor as not only an experienced and trusted advisor, but also as someone who is
knowledgeable, compassionate, patient and understanding of others needs and/or desires.
I believe that mentoring
is extremely important; not just in one’s employment but in one’s daily life. I wonder at times that if
I had a mentor when I was a pre-teen and at a time when I had no father in my life, if I would have avoided the delinquency
and truant problems that I faced as a child. Fortunately, when I reached my teen years, I had a stepfather who basically
mentored me into my adult years and probably saved my future. As an employee with the Department, I believe mentoring
is important during and after the training process. I feel that when you can tap into the knowledge of an experienced
employee, that it assists one with making better decisions when working with court-involved youth and their families.
Kevin
K. DownsProbation Officer, Abingdon Court Service Unit
In my juvenile justice career I benefited from two wonderful mentors. Early in my career as a very young probation
officer, Ken McLaughlin counseled me on the most important values of working with troubled youth and their families and the
Juvenile Court. Ken guided me to look at issues beyond the daily crises and explore the need to always balance the Court's
authority with fairness, equality, and the concern for rehabilitation. He also saw something within me that led him
to believe in me and guide me to opportunities within the agency to enhance my career. He shared his years of experience
as a senior manager with me to prepare for a career in probation management.
My current mentor is Jim Dedes.
Jim has worked with me many years after I became a manager, not just as a director, but as a confidant and advisor. His wealth
of knowledge in the many various areas of local government, judicial relationships, and organizational issues has proven to
be critical in my growth. Jim shares these experiences with me in a way that encourages my learning, while passing on
important lessons and values.
Career mentoring is crucial for individuals to find their way within organizations.
It goes beyond "supervision" and often moves into a friendship. I can truly say that without my mentors I seriously
doubt my career would have grown in juvenile justice.
I must say that my personal mentor was my father.
My Dad always took an interest in my career, and in his later years, we often talked about what my job was like and the daily
challenges. He listened carefully, never criticized, but often gave me important pieces of advice from his experience
as a long time construction manager. I found that his knowledge in working with people, especially staff, proved invaluable
to me in my current role. It was my Dad's values about treating employees with respect and fairness that will be with
me forever. Most important, as a mentor, I want to make my father proud of my accomplishments. Mentors often do not
realize they are such important people in other's lives.
Jamie McCarronDirector, Fairfax
County Probation Services
I didn’t start college until I was 25 years old. I was terrified, shy, had a very low self esteem,
and wasn’t sure if I possessed the skills or knowledge it would take to make it. Out of pure curiosity I registered
for a leadership class my first semester at UMBC. My 1st day of college I entered the leadership class to find myself
sitting in a room with thirty 18 year old freshman and one middle aged female student (she became one of my best friends and
still is to this date). A tall, heavy set, African American woman walked in, she stood at the front of the class and
said “if you don’t plan on making the most of this class and working hard, please leave now, I don’t want
you wasting my time or yours.” There was a buzz in the room, to my surprise 4 or 5 people got up and left. I think
more then anything those who left were offended by her words and the others were in total shock, not me; I thought it was
brilliant, direct, and to the point. I wanted to know more about this women standing before me. This was my first encounter
with Dr. Valda Slack, Assist Dean of Student Affairs and Leadership Instructor, luckily not my last.
During
my three years at UMBC Dr. Slack introduced me to the wonderful world off learning through culture, education, self awareness,
and diversity. I attended conferences, workshops, concerts, and lectures with her and other students she had taken under
her wing. I will never forget a poetry reading by Dr. Maya Angelou I attended with Dr. Slack at the Baltimore Symphony
Hall. I walked into the reading one person and left exuding confidence and pride, because I knew after hearing her poem
Phenomenal Women, which was exactly what I was, as well as every other woman I knew. Dr. Slack encouraged me to become
involved in different groups on campus to strengthen my communication skills, gain confidence, and increase my knowledge base.
I was nominated by Dr. Slack and elected by the Universities President as a member of his student advisory committee, I developed
and facilitated several workshops on campus, organized student leadership conferences and outings, became the president of
the women empowering women organization on campus, and was the co-founder of UMBC’s collegiate Toast Masters group,
to name a few.
During my three years at UMBC I evolved into a confident, independent, motivated leader.
I owe this to Dr. Slack for never allowing me to doubt myself, always encouraging me to do my best, to perceiver, to welcome
diversity into my life with open arms, and challenging me recognize the characteristics I possess within me and utilize them.
I haven’t seen Dr. Slack for over 8 years, I often think of her, knowing that if it wasn’t for her guidance, support,
and confidence in me, I would not be the person I am today.
Jeaneen Story-EnglemanDirector,
Discovery House
I have been fortunate to have several supervisors who took an interest in me along the way and taught me the values
of professionalism and dedication. Early in my career, it was Don Driscoll at both Hanover JCC and RDC, and more recently
Dave Marsden (through VJJA and later at Central Office) who made a difference in my professional growth and development.
I think being a mentor means sharing insight and wisdom learned throughout one’s career with a younger or less-experienced
person, in the hope of fostering that person’s professional development. Mentoring is important for the same reasons
that education in general is important – but mentoring is a way of passing along knowledge that isn’t found in
books or manuals. There’s no substitute for experience, especially in human services fields like ours.
Lewis
Wright
Probation Supervisor, Henrico Court Service Unit
A mentor is someone who knows when to hold your hand and when it is time to let you go it alone, someone who celebrates
your successes and helps you learn from your mistakes, and someone who knows when you need a swift kick in the pants.
I've had several mentors in my life thus far. My grandmother, Elizabeth Macauley, Shirley Hall, former Director of Clifton
Forge DSS and my coworker Kathy Crawford, Assistant Superintendent of Operations at RVJDC have all shown me that women can
be strong leaders without sacrificing compassion, understanding and nurturing. For the past seven years, Alan Hullette,
Superintendent of RVJDC has been my mentor. Because of his example, I've been able to serve as a mentor to others. In
a mentor-protégé relationship I think the mentor often learns as much as the protégé.
Colleen
A. FrenchAssistant Superintendent of Programs
As a young man I never really viewed anyone as a mentor. Sure, I looked up to and respected many people
who affected my life, but never really gave them too much credit. I have since reflected on my youth and now realize
how important a few individuals were in my development/character. My dad, Richard Beard was truly a blessing and I didn’t
realize it until I was 32 years old and I told him so by saying “Dad I realized just how much I like you”.
He laughed and stated “You turned out alright didn’t you”? I now understand the importance of
his message. He used to tell me “Don’t lie, work hard, and never embarrass yourself or the family”.
His message was never misunderstood, but his constant attempts to hold me accountable seemed a bit much. I honestly
believe his guidance, love and patience helped me become a better person/probation officer. Being a mentor, whether
you know it or not is so very important. I often wonder how my personality, work ethic and communications affect others.
I honestly believe by treating each person individually, fairly and consistently you will eventually gain their respect/trust.
I have coached high school sports for 15 years, been a probation officer for 18, so I know I have either been a positive or
negative role model to many. The key is to never stop learning, be a good listener and to attempt to help each person
believe in themselves.
Tim BeardProbation Officer, 11th Court Service Unit
"Think back in your life to a time when you transitioned from seeking
guidance from your parents to seeking it from a series of mentors you had in your life. Then imagine that you are child from
a difficult family, with
nothing to transition from or to. That's why mentors for young people are so important."
The
Honorable David W. Marsden
41st District, Virginia House of Delegates
I was 'mentored' by several people in my life. Many folks can relate to having supportive
parents in their lives, and I can count myself as a member of that group. They stressed developing strong academic skills
and treating others well. My most important influence was Mrs. Linda Clyburn. My father was in the army, and my family
was stationed in Germany while I was in high school. Mrs. Clyburn coordinated the youth programs for our installation.
She took our groups on trips to Spain and Italy, and sponsored other local fun events. She set a great example for me
and the other youths with her all of her efforts on our behalf. I now understand that she worked well above and beyond
the traditional eight-hour work day to provide us with safe, fun and educational activities while we were living halfway around
the world. I currently share my time and energy in a similar fashion through the volunteer programs with which I work
in my community. I recently wrote a letter to Mrs. Clyburn letting her know of the impact she had on my life.
We were able to speak by phone and reminisce about our time together in Germany nearly twenty years ago!
Yvonne
Earvin
Recreational Therapist, Whisper Ridge
While in Richmond for Christmas I talked with me cousin Edward, a professor at Thomas Nelson Community College.
He had just finished a semester of teaching basic math, not much more than add, subtract, multiply, and divide. I was both
alarmed and amazed to understand that of 24 taking the course, 11 failed to pass.
I was fortunate to have
been mentored by family, teachers, and colleagues along the way. I still, like any of us, have much to learn.
But having the basics in language and math has given me the means to go about additional learning, or teaching myself.
One lesson from working with people: Pick up on where the person may be. Maslow, a noted psychologist, had a theory
based on a person's hierarchy of needs. Circumstances and those needs interplay and make mentoring a rewarding experience.
Because mentoring has the potential to give to someone else the ability to be able to teach themselves.
David
JamesRetired Mmeber living in Smithfield and
former VJJA President
I was fortunate to have many high school coaches and teachers as mentors. Mentors take the time to listen
to and tell young people what is right and wrong. My mentors were giving me the same advice as my parents but I could and
would listen to them because they were not my parents. Grandparents and older extended family members are also important
as mentors.
William J SharkeyIntake Supervisor, Newport News CSU
Someone told me a long time ago that humility is not thinking less of yourself but rather thinking of yourself
less often. This person was one of two mentors I had in my career in juvenile justice. He explained that one must think
of the impact throughout an organization of any decision you make while doing your work. I was a counselor at the time
and thought that I was making little difference, until he asked me to analyze the actual and potential impact of my actions
on the individual children and families I worked with and the impact of what I did on a daily basis on the expected outcomes/goals
of the organization. After doing this quick analysis, it was easy for me to see the difference I was making.
I
have found that it is important to "choose" your mentor. Look at that person and determine if he/she has something you
want (e.g. leadership skills, project planning skills, case management skills, etc.).
A mentor to me is
someone who says, "I have certain experience and knowledge that I would like to share with you and I would like to offer modeling
behavior that may assist you as you move forward in your career in juvenile justice." A good mentor must have the skills
to challenge the person he is mentoring to grow professionally.
Tim HowardDeputy Director,
VADJJ
I’ve had numerous mentors throughout my life - parents who taught me the value of honesty and hard work;
teachers who taught me the value of education; friends and co-workers who continue to teach me daily the importance of unconditional
love and acceptance of each other and the kids that we mentor.
We, as Probation Officers, have the awesome opportunity
to be a driving force for positive change in the lives of court-involved juveniles and their families. Despite the difficult
situations we deal with daily, we must press on and guide our kids into the future. After all, they are the future……….
Karen
AndersProbation Officer, Christiansburg Court Service Unit
Growing up I had many mentors; I can remember my second grade teacher Ms. McNeil inspiring me to feel I could
achieve anything. As I got older coaches pushing me to accomplish things I didn't think possible. My parents challenging me
as a young man to stand up for myself and do what was right in spite of its unpopularity. As a high school junior I watched
a young man on our school track team finish dead last every meet in the 2 mile run. This was the last race of every track
meet, and he always was the last runner, but he always finished the race. Finally, I got up the nerve and asked him why he
ran the entire 8 laps even though everyone else had finished. He stated simply because he was supposed to. He was truly an
inspirational mentor. As an adult I continue to find mentors in other professionals and co-workers who both challenge and
inspire me. Mentors come in different forms and provide different roles. Anyone can be one, purposeful or accidental.
Steve Hixon Prevention Coordinator, Henrico Mental Health
The list of mentors and inspirations in my life are nearly endless and happen daily. Professionally,
I am grateful for the model and inspiration that Bob Shepherd continues to provide. His dauntless and selfless devotion
to children (particularly the difficult ones) as well as his ready and sage advice has made me a better lawyer and a better
human being.
Cheryl FrydrychowskiAttorney and Co-Director, Children’s Justice
Center
My primary mentor was my father and he was sort of the mentor for most of the boys of my age group.
My secondary mentors were my camp counselors (that’s why I still to this day like taking young men camping) and some
of the coaches and administrators from my high school. Being a mentor means continuing the chain of adult training that
was provided to me as a youth. It’s like providing rain in due season. The basic need of helping is accomplished through
the mentoring process and mentoring keeps you young. As much as mentoring seems to be one giving to others, a careful
examination reveals that mentoring is receiving from others because of your giving.
Charles Dockery
Assistant
Superintendent, Beaumont JCC
Mentors impart wisdom and provide guidance effortlessly, and sometimes, unknowingly. There are three
juvenile justice personnel to whom I am sincerely grateful for serving as mentors to me. To Saundra Crawford, Staunton
Court Service Unit, Jerry Wall, Staunton Court Service Unit, and Rodney Hubbard, Roanoke Court Service Unit, I thank you!
Kaye Wallace, J.D.
Family Abuse Officer/Intake Officer, Loudoun Court Service Unit
Thinking back when I was growing up, I would have to say that my grandfather was my mentor. He was a good
person, he was generous and he was always helping family and friends. If anyone was in need he was there to help. If someone
was sick, he was bringing food and visiting. if someone was out of work he would give financially. He was always there
for you. To be a mentor, I think means to lead by example. To teach without even realizing the impact you have on a person.
I think mentoring is important because the tremendous influence someone can have on a person can last a lifetime.
Tammy
J. DeihrProbation Supervisor, Spotsylvania Court Service Unit
